âItâs complicatedâ- it sounds a little funny, doesnât it?
Married, single or in a relationship are compact, understandable and relatable terms.
âItâs complicatedâ when omitted into the air as a response, just results in raised eyebrows and hidden subtexts.
Itâs a mystery saying something without really saying something.
People define âitâs complicatedâ in various terms, to some it can be a situation when youâre âwithâ someone, but youâre not really with them.
There are a number of reasons why we go via the âits complicatedâ route.
Whether itâs for money (Blesser vibes), trying to go undercover so that your folks donât find out, trying not to appear too lonely to the world, or just going through an experimental phase.
The crux of the matter, is that it shouldnât matter, because at the end of the day we are all different and we expect different things from relationships.
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The factor that truly complicates a relationship, is understanding that you canât make it a success on your own.
You require your partner to reciprocate, to communicate and to do so honestly.
It take two to tango yeah?
Relationships arenât always perfect like the love stories we see in movies. Relationships involve loads of effort, time, and commitment from both parties.
Maybe thatâs why its easier to say âIts complicatedâ. The term comes with no commitment, no added tasks and responsibilities.
Itâs a term that allows you to tango on your own, and then sometimes with the person of your choiceâŠ
There is no perfect equation for relationships.
Sometimes no matter how long you may be in a relationship with someone, the lines might not be completely defined, which can make things highly complicated.
TYI asked millennials what makes a relationship complicated and these were the responses:
1. Ethan: âRelationships donât need to be complicated at all, it depends on the choices and decisions that a person makes which tends to lead to complicated situations. It depends on peopleâs emotions and what they are trying to get out of the relationship that makes things complicated.
2. Nadine: â50 Shades of grey made it complicated. It has ruined relationships because I expect a guy to live up to the characterâs standard â Mr Grey.
The biggest problem that couples face is that they never communicate about their expectations in a relationship from the time they meet. We all want to be the perfect definition of love, however, this deception might lead to complications.â
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3. Aphelele: âWhat makes a relationship complicated is not being honest with your partner, lack of communication and not being transparent.â
As awkward as it may sound, when you meet a person for the first time, before you take it any further and categorise them under Mr/ Ms Perfect, just make it perfectly clear with regards to what you want from a relationship, so that both parties are clear on the relationship objective.
At the end of the day, everyone has a choice, once you define your relationship expectations, it is up to the other person to choose whether they are comfortable with your relationship goals or not.
Letâs start on good habits for 2017, playing with peopleâs emotions must be left in 2016.
Donât be that person that makes your partnerâs life a living hell.
Join in the conversation:
What make a relationship âcomplicatedâ?