Let’s talk discharges and your V’JJ…
What are vaginal discharges?
Vaginal discharges are fluids that are made by glands inside the vagina and cervix. The purpose of this fluid is that it plays an important house keeping role in a female’s reproductive system, it carries away dead cells and bacteria. This helps keep your vagina clean and helps protect it from infections.
Discharges various in colours, smells and amount on different people. There are certain colour and smell of discharge especially if your vagina itches after you urinate, this can indicate that there’s something wrong with your vagina and that you need to see a doctor.
DID YOU KNOW?
LADIES, a clear, elastic discharge that looks slightly like raw egg whites\ is totally normal. So don’t stress if you see this in your underwear. But if it’s cottage cheese-y, yellow, grayish-green, watery, or more than you usual, then yes, see a doctor.
SAFE SEX TIP:
YOU claim you’ve been tested for everything, but did you know that different doctors test for different STD’s? So make sure you know what you’re actually being tested for! Ask questions while being tested and know what is what.
Question:
Dear Lolita Frikkadel,
I had a one night stand and we didn’t use a condom.
I’ve been freaking out since it happened last weekend and don’t know what to do. I just met the guy that same day, and we were having a jol at a friend’s place and before I knew it we were in my friend’s parents car doing it.
I was totally out of it. I would have never done this if I hadn’t been drinking and smoking. He didn’t rape me or anything like that though, I wanted it. I’m just worried that we didn’t use a condom. What now?
– From Missy
Lolita Frikkadel: Girlfriend, do not panic. That’s not going to help you at all! You should be worried that you didn’t use a condom, but also about a few other things.
But first things first, you need to stay calm and try to keep you head on your shoulders. So listen up Missy, you need to make sure that you always use a condom in the future – and that this never happens again.
That means not relying on the guy to have one on him, but to carry your own condoms. Depending on the guy to have protection is so old school – and not in a cool way.
Don’t place yourself in a difficult position where you question why you’ve done something, or someone; by drinking too much, or smoking God knows what – I’m assuming we’re talking about drugs here!
I do hope you are sure about the fact that you wanted to have sex and that this guy had your consent- and that this wasn’t rape.
You need to be aware of what is happening to you and your body at all times, and be in charge of what happens to you sexually, and how far it goes. I’m not saying be a party pooper and don’t have a drink at the party, but know your limits, girlfriend. And watch your drink, don’t take the chance of having some guy pop in a pill, date rape drug, or whatever in there so he can have his way with you at the house party.
Now you also need to deal with the situation at hand – which is that you had unprotected sex with a stranger and doing so exposed yourself to the chance of getting pregnant, contracting a STD or even HIV.
I know it’s scary as hell, but it’s the truth, and if you are having sex with strangers you need to know what the consequence are. Being a grownup and doing grownup things come with serious consequences, so empower yourself with the knowledge to be safe in all circumstances.
Now, are you using another form of contraception such as the birth control pill, or a ring, implant, or so on?
That might protect your from getting pregnant, but not from things like STD’s and potential HIV infection. If you have unprotected sex, you could get the morning after pill at some pharmacies, and if you take it within 72 hours of having unprotected sex, it can prevent pregnancy.
In your case, I would advise going to a doctor, gynecologist or Marie Stopes Clinic to get a pregnancy, STD and HIV test done. I know it’s scary, but it’s better to be safe rather than sorry.
Contact the Marie Stopes Clinic on 0800 11 77 85 and get educated and tested.
You need to make a promise to yourself that you will never ever place yourself in a scary situation like that again.
If you do feel unclear about what happened to you, call the Rape Crisis 24 hour crisis line – 021 447 9762 – at any time of the day or night and get some advice.
Lolita Frikkadel is here to answer all your sex questions.
If you have any questions, please email us at theyoungindependents.co.za
– Daily Voice