The image of a girl bleeding through her nose after being battered by a fellow pupil at school is a hard one to understand and forget.

Unless we teach our young sons, nephews, male cousins and brothers that kicking, shoving or smacking their little sisters or anyone else is wrong, we will never win.

Unless we watch out for the symptomatic signs like a hawk and don’t entertain excuses, we are doomed.

More difficult to comprehend is how a man violently shoves and kicks a woman.

It compels one to ponder where the brutal nature was learnt and how it can be unlearnt. There have been many stories of relentless gender violence and how so many women never live to see what the future holds for them.

Yes, abuse against women is nothing new.

I recall a story about a man threatening to throw a TV set at his wife. I also remember how he sifted through bullets in his hands while his kids were in the next room.

I remember because I was one of those kids.

I prayed hard that my mother, siblings and I wouldn’t be reported one day as mere statistics of a familicide.

Someone once said we live in a society where some men are broken.

I don’t know if we can heal broken adult men, but we can certainly raise responsible future leaders who will never know a backhand.

* Mokati is a political writer for Independent Media.

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