I have recently met a wonderful new man —something I never thought would happen after a messy divorce.
We’ve now been together for eight months and I honestly can’t believe my luck.
The problem is that it’s creating tension with my best friend. To be blunt, she is jealous of my sex life.
A few weeks ago she asked how things were going. I told her how I was head over heels for him and that he was great in bed.
She completely freaked out. It turns out that she and her husband haven’t had sex in years.
She got really defensive and accused me of trying to show off. We’ve avoided each other ever since.
I feel bad for her situation, but am also upset that she can’t be happy for me. What should I do?
Steph says: First, let me say how brave I think you are for finding love again. Frankly, it can be terrifying.
You’ve had to pick yourself up after a bruising divorce and get out there. I salute you. It tells me you’re a strong woman. Good — because you’re going to need to be now.
We’ve all experienced a jealous friend who can’t adjust when life smiles on us.
We all understand it to a certain extent. Change, even positive change, is destabilising. In this instance, it will have made your friend examine exactly what she’s missing out on in her own marriage. That’s not easy.
But neither is it easy to have got out there and found a new life for yourself.
While you’re gloriously happy, you may still have moments of insecurity about your new relationship. All you need is support from your friend, not for her to curl her lip at you.
There are unwritten rules in friendships and she’s breaking them.
Be totally honest with her and tell her how badly she’s made you feel. Tell her you
Then see what happens — but prepare yourself.
We’re fed a diet of nonsense wherein our female friendships triumph over everything. And the good ones do. But not all of our friendships are happy or healthy. Women can be beastly to each other and deliberately mess things up for one another.
If this friend can’t join you on the next chapter of your journey, then you might well have to cut her loose.
You don’t need to explain yourself to anyone. You don’t need to apologise. You just need to be happy.
If she decides to throw her toys out of the pram, leave her to it.
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