High school friends are dangerous.
They are usually privy to your deepest darkest secrets and can decipher your micro expressions in a millisecond.
The shared experiences, the lunch breaks, the inside jokes, the copied homework, the constant messaging leads to an intense bond that if severed creates a terrible aftermath for all parties involved.
High school is a place where lifelong friendships are created. That’s what we all think right?
But it’s scary how many people actually remain friends after school.
Very few people live by all the farewell promises they made as high school friends.
Was the 8 years of friendship not worth it? Oh. ok. 😐
Be a good friend.
Be there when they need you.
Be a good listener.
Keep your promises.
How to figure out whether you’ve got a friend who will NOT last till the end:
1. The ‘I called dibs’ friend
It doesn’t matter if they already have 10 potential ‘perfect’ matches. Somehow they always seem to make room for one more.
You can stand on your head and plead for your life, but once they call dibs on a particular crush, you can forget about your happily ever after.
A 2004 study published in the American Sociological Review revealed that the average number of trusted friends fell by a third in the past 20 years and the proportion of people with no confidants had doubled.
2. The sponge-like friend
In other words? The Copycat. You know exactly who I am talking about.
“Dude. If you get this one, I will take the next one.”
Yep. If their habits haven’t driven you crazy by now and you’re still friends. Then well done. 😂
3. The ‘your problems aren’t important’ friend
Yes. The friend that always complains and always finds a way to bring everybody down.
Also, never talks about anything else besides his/ her own problems?
Sarah: “Jess, I have bad news. I fell down 4 flights of stairs and broke both my legs.”
Jess: “Yeah, yeah. Did you hear what John said to me today? Urgh. So rude right?”
In a lifetime, you go through approximately good 396 friends but only around 1 in 12 friendships last.
4. The ‘I am sorry, we were drunk’ friend
Nothing stings more than when the shoulder you always cry on, hooks up with the person you always cry about.
Also when your best friend and ex start dating?
Do I have a sign on my head that says ‘please hurt me’?
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Scientists studied 88 friend couples of the opposite sex and concluded that men were more physically and sexually attracted to their female friends, and tended to overestimate how these women saw them.
5. The ‘Loyal’ friend
The friend that promises to visit and always call after you graduate, but 6 months later, not one call or message.
Friendship requires effort and commitment.
But once a person starts breaking you more than they support you, then the red lights should start flashing.
| We’re born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we’re not alone. – Orson Welles |
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