Is a Blowjob a Dating requirement?
We accessed interesting blowjob related confessions from University confessions pages, namely Rhodes University and asked our Relationship Guru’s*, Aphelele Monti and Zonke Nyaki to respond.
Of the men we spoke to, 40 percent say they’ve had multiple orgasms. These are genital contractions between three and five seconds long, and men can experience several before having a full orgasm.
And when you’re having oral sex, enthusiasm is better than technique. “The most amazing oral sex I’ve had? It was a standard blowjob but she loved doing it and it showed,” says one 31 year old.
If he had to choose between a woman who had porn-star technique but looked bored, and a woman who wasn’t as proficient but was having fun, he’d go for Ms Enthusiastic. Enjoying a man’s penis shows you’re enjoying him, and that’s the biggest ego boost ever.
The Young Independents asks…(and our *Guru’s respond)
IS A BLOWJOB A DATING REQUIREMENT?
1. Aphele Monti – A blow job is not a dating requirement but a “necessity” during sex. I wouldn’t reject dating a person because she doesn’t give some head but I’d definitely be disappointed when she doesn’t offer one when we are getting it on. I mean, where’s the fun in that.
2. Langelihle Dube – LOL, um… No, it’s not. If the person is opening to learning, then we can start off slow. But consent, and an open mind are key. No one should ever be forced or manipulated into performing any sexual acts they are not comfortable with.
3. Lebogang Mawela – Iyhoo..LOL, I was never ready for this. Ok, blow jobs are not a dating requirement. It all depends on what you and your partner agrees on doing, I mean sometimes it’s difficult to even predict whether you will do it, during sex it becomes LIT and anything can happen. At the end of the day it’s all about being comfortable and experimenting.
4. Zonke Nkayi – Wouldn’t go as far as saying it is a requirement, with that said I feel a blow job is a very very neccesary thing (extremely neccessary if you as me LOL..jokes). On a slightly serious note I think when it comes to dating someone a blow job shouldn’t be on the criteria of things you look for in a person, although the idea of not getting a blow job might SUCK, I’d still date a girl who would want to give me a blow job.
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* Guru’s- Marginally adept at giving unapologetic, honest and raw advice.
