There is a lot more to BDSM than what we learn in movies and books…
And no, ’50 shades of Grey’ should not be used as a measure.
Firstly BDSM is a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other related interpersonal dynamics
Although people do say that BDSM was best described in the ’50 shades of grey’ series it certainly doesn’t mean that the information provided is all that accurate.
There are a few aspects you need to consider before entering into the BDSM:
1. It does not always involve sex
BDSM is made up of intense sessions and in most cases it would lead to having sex. The underlying fact however is that BDSM is not done in order to reach a point of sex.
Some people simply find BDSM thrilling enough and do not need any other form of satisfaction.
2. Who said anything about whips?
Sure, some people do enjoy using whips and ropes, but that does not mean that this is your only option. BDSM can also include using sex toys and role playing. These are tools to spice 🌶 things up.
3. BDSM sessions are called ‘scenes’
Since BDSM does not always suggest intercourse, you can not technically say that you “had sex”.
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4. What is tops and bottoms?
In BDSM, you get the Dominant and the Submissive. Now top and bottom elude to these roles. Tops are sadists (people who enjoy inflicting pain), bottoms are masochists (people who enjoy receiving pain).
Related article:5. BDSM requires alot of research
This is quite serious. You have to do proper research before jumping into something. Know all the extremes and consequences.
6. It’s not as spontaneous as you would hope
The odds of being swept away and all of a sudden you are tied up in a dungeon is probably less than one in a million.
The people that are into BDSM are very cautious about it and handle approaching this area with their partner delicately.
More importantly, you have to be able to trust the other person.
7. There is way more talking than in vanilla sex
The amount of communication that occurs before, during and after the scene is crucial.
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